How to Set (and stick with) Goals

Updated: Nov 21

I love this time of the year. The weather is cooler (or cold) which means eating my favorite food, wearing my favorite clothes and cozying up under blankets with my favorite people. Along with the usual holiday gatherings, we also have several birthdays in our family (mine included). Cooking and planning and hugging will definitely be on the agenda this holiday season especially since it’s the first I’ve gotten to spend with my family in years. This year is special, and I’m determined to drink in every last second.

It would be easy to be swept up in the holiday hustle. Continuing to think only about what needs to get done at this one moment. There is grounding in being that present. And I know I plan on staying as grounded as I possibly can. However, in the back of my mind looms the reminder that after the mania, the beginning of the year will be here. With the beginning of the year comes goals, intentions and objectives to reach those goals. And if I don’t take a moment from the malay to focus on those, then the goals and objectives I set for myself will be rushed. And because they’re rushed, they mean less to me and way easier to give up on.

Let's first define what a goal is. A goal is a vision for the future that is within your control that has a deadline. Goals are not resolutions or mission statements or objectives. A goal is something you can achieve that is in your relative control. Resolution is a decision to do or not to do something. A mission statement is a statement of purpose. And an objective are steps to attain your goal. For example a goal is “I want to nail commercial reads” and an objective to reach that goal is “I will interview three commercial coaches by next Friday”.

When setting goals for the next year, try to erase any restrictions you have in day to day thinking. For instance, ask yourself “what would I do if I knew I couldn’t fail”. Write down as many things as you can think of. Come back to the list after a break and rank them from one to five. One is a top priority and five is secondary. Next, gather up all your top goals and rank them from one to five again. This will give you a clear understanding of what is truly important to you.

After that, evaluate the ‘why’. This is the most important step. If your ‘why’ is weak or impersonal then the goal is exponentially easier to give up on. Be specific! Be clear!

Write it down!

Once you’ve identified your overall goal, write it down somewhere visible and somewhere you would look daily.


Next, create an action plan. In your action plan, assign specific deadlines for each objective. Make sure to set them far enough apart to maintain life balance and avoid burnout.


Understanding and acknowledging potential obstacles will make them less daunting if and when you encounter them and it also helps awareness that the path to achieving your goals will not be a smooth one.


Lastly, grab a friend or colleague to share these goals and objectives with. Form a success partnership or accountability group to keep yourself on target and on schedule.


As you begin your journey, the specifics might change, the why might shift and the deadlines might need extensions. Go easy on yourself. Allow yourself some time off to regroup and regain confidence to get after it again.

Let me know in the comments what you come up with! You are valued, you are valuable and you’re ready. Let’s go!

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